tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24939485802414795092024-03-14T08:59:35.955+01:00People Ask Me WhyAnd the answer is "Why not?"Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.comBlogger283125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-31308814593904606042019-08-04T18:27:00.000+02:002019-08-04T18:27:12.589+02:00I'm Back. Kinda.Hello there!<br />
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I've been gone a long time. I know some people who have been disappointed that I stopped writing for a while. Others probably didn't even notice. I'm a little of both, to be honest. I'm disappointed in myself for letting my writing go away, but my time has been filled up with other stuff so at times I just really didn't notice that I wasn't writing.<br />
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The beginning of the slow down can be placed squarely at the feet of my aborted attempt at a job here. While it was exhilerating, it was also exhausting. It filled my mind even when I wasn't working. It was a great experience, but it is equally great to be finished with it. More on that when I have absolutely nothing else to share.<br />
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It's easy once a thing has slowed down or stopped to simply refuse to pick it up again, and I guess I found myself in that frame of mind about writing here. Not lazy per se, but definitely also not brimming with enthusiasm for writing.<br />
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I have found that since moving to the countryside I feel less compelled to write. I know that sounds weird, but writing for me has often been a way to get my fears, anxieties, and questions out of my head and onto paper where I can make some sense of them. It's a stress reliever of sorts. Now that we live in the country I'm no longer suffocating in the energy of thousands of strangers. There are no bars on our windows. We have privacy. I have completely buried myself for this year and a half in my solitude. My batteries are recharged. It's time for me to reach out again.<br />
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I had also found myself writing through a few extra filters at the end, worried that I would offend my dear friends who just happen to be Italian when I write about the insanity of beaurocracy here, or the male dominated culture of cycling, or the regular snubbing I used to receive everywhere. To be clear, all of those things still exist....I'm not writing again because the Italian government has streamlined, women are respected and plentiful on the roads, and everyone wants to be my friend.<br />
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I still have a story to tell. Even if there's only one person (you know who you are) reading, it's worth writing down. Because truthfully my stories are less about others and more about the often ridiculous situations I manage to get myself into. I can laugh at myself and that helps me to move forward. Expect to hear about the pounds of blackberries I'll be picking and my inability to find jars right now, the joys of having a pool in the front yard, the bike rides and the friends I ride with.<br />
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It's good to be back.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-7488978354683655172018-03-16T18:57:00.000+01:002018-03-16T18:57:40.335+01:00Buying an Apple<div style="color: #454545; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; font-size: 19.1px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">I maintain that I need constant and careful supervision especially when things are going tough. I'd been in turns frustrated, angry or ballistic about my technology. It never worked when I wanted it to, much less when I actually needed it to. The phone took crappy pictures and I couldn't read an entire news article without being booted out to the start screen. I could only use the Beta version of Instagram and by the time I stopped using the phone, Facebook no longer let me see entire comments or post any myself. Phone calls required precise locations....and only those precise locations or I had no reception. My computer was slower than my phone (!) and the cord only worked in one position, one probably not recommended by the manufacturer, and was one step away from me holding the cord at a 30° angle from my body while sitting on the second cushion on the couch and holding my other hand towards the window (effectively stripping me of the power to type), unless it was raining in which case touching the cord at all was disaster regardless of where I was sitting or how many hands I waved in the air.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">First we ordered my cell phone online from a big box store because they were clearancing out cell phones. I do love a great deal and we could go to the store to pick it up saving us even more money and the need to sit at home waiting for the delivery. (For those unfamiliar with the Italian post, if they can't deliver to you on the first day you have to go to the office specified on the ticket [not necessarily the one closest to your house] on the day and hour specified [not necessarily the next day nor when the office opens] and wait in line to get your package. It's not something you want to do on purpose.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">The staff were helpful and excited to get me into my first Apple product. I pointed to the things I wanted, the guy typed on his phone and </span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText-Italic"; font-size: 19.08pt; font-style: italic;">ecco</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">! my desired items were hand delivered to us by silently efficient gofers. And that wasn't even the most exciting part...now they sat me down to help me set up my new computer. All I'll say at this point is "THANK GOD". Me and easy apparently never, like ever, go together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">All went well with the first part: fingerprints, passwords, preferred language. My computer worked! Next (and to judge from their attitudes not even something they needed to help me with because it really does the work itself) the pairing of my English keyboard to my iPad. And due to all the magnety things going on, attaching the keyboard is child's play. With a flourish the techie guy invited me to type things into my new computer with my snazzy new keyboard. Perhaps because I approached it with less flourish than it had been presented, the keyboard refused to work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">And this is where the simple purchase of a computer turns into something of a farce involving multiple associates and experts sporting serious looks (and often serious moustaches) under the curious gaze of other customers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">"It doesn't work?" Techie #1 asked, clearly surprised that I wasn't euphorically typing nonsense words into my new device. He frowned (overly dramatically it seemed to me) and pulled it toward him, madly searching for something in "settings" that could explain why things weren't working smoothly. Thus began the long process of searching for answers and attempting a fix that always resulted in one minute of success to be quickly followed by failure and requiring me to re-enter my password.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">The next hour+ found me entering my password over twenty times as they tried various hardware (trying keyboard with demo iPads to make sure it worked, and when it did swapping out iPads, which meant repeating the whole setup process) and software (updating it, which was really confusing as it came straight out of the box....how is it even possible to need an update before it leaves the store??!) Techies #2 & #3 were brought in to consult as the Spanish family across the table from us tried to cheer me up by asking about where I was from. Unfortunately they couldn't drown out the rather desperate, whispered consultation happening around my iPad. The floor manager had joined the three tech guys and anyone wearing an Apple shirt and not currently helping someone had gathered at a respectful distance to check out what was happening (while appearing to straighten cords or clean screens). A sigh in four parts brought me out of a daydream in which technology actually liked me, and Techie #1 slid the iPad towards me. "Try it now," he encouraged me with an aprehensive smile.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">As I typed I could feel the tension slide off the Apple contingent surrounding my table. "It works!" was all I could say. Bystanders trickled off to their various posts and the Spanish family gave me a thumbs ups. After presenting me with a small gift for sticking with them through the difficulties the original salesman escorted me to the door and assured me that should I need any more help (and surely, his look implied, I wouldn't be back as all my problems had been solved) they were there for me. I hefted my backpack of Apple products and boxes over my shoulder and we left for home.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">At home later that night I took out the iPad, hands shaking only slightly, and turned it on. That part worked perfectly. I wanted to quit there, you know, while I was ahead....but no. I went ahead and tried the keyboard. Holy cow! It worked! It was a Sunday evening miracle! I closed the cover, opened it up and tried the keyboard again. Holy cow! It didn't work!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">Wait, what? I fiddled with it for another ten minutes, unable to get the keyboard to work again. I muttered to myself about the lunacy of an Apple product not being able to interface with another Apple product (that being the whole point of Apple....it works with it's own shit and not so much with anyone else's) while listlessly poking at the keyboard with one finger. Leif watched from a distance, oozing sympathy while being smart enough to stay silent. I calmly (at least in my head it was calmly) said "We WILL be going to the Apple store first thing tomorrow morning." Leif poured me a shot of whiskey. I accepted it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">The next day we walked into the Apple store as they opened. The floor manager recognized me and with a tentative smile asked how things were going. "It doesn't..." was as far as I got before his smile melted off his face and he exclaimed "But no! How is this possible? Come..." and led me to the same table I'd spent so much time at the day before. He tugged at the arm of an associate as we walked by, unleashing a stream of Italian I couldn't follow but was obviously the equivelant of "All hands on deck!" as he dropped what he was doing and followed us to the table, smiling bravely as he asked to see my iPad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">"Show me," he said. I set it up and showed him. He started with a thoughtful look. Asked permission to touch my computer and did whatever it is computer dudes do in "settings" and tried it. Looking a bit self-satisfied he typed some more. He started to spin it in my direction but stopped halfway around. With a frown he typed some more, then started to wiggle the keyboard around a bit. Typed. Wiggled. Typed. Frowned some more. Asked if he could try a few things....kind of a strange question as I came there specifically for them to try things....anythings.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">He walked away with just the keyboard, an only slightly contained "</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText-Italic"; font-size: 19.08pt; font-style: italic;">Incredibile!"</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;"> bursting from him. The manager slid next to him, reminding him that this is my first Apple product and it was their sworn duty to make me happy (said in Italian possibly in the hopes that I wouldn't understand what he was saying...) The techi</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText-Italic"; font-size: 19.08pt; font-style: italic;">e </span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">returned quickly, assuring me that the keyboard seemed to work with the other iPads so perhaps it was the iPad itself. The manager, who had been hovering nearby, quickly told him that we'd already tried replacing the iPad so perhaps instead we should try a new keyboard. An English keyboard.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">At this point Leif left to do some work as I had no idea how long it would take and I didn't care if my meltdown had to happen in English and rudimentary Italian. I felt up to the task if the occasion called for it. Tears transcend language.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">The new keyboard fared no better than the original one. A brief moment of success before failure. New techies were recruited, I believe these would be the big guns, brought out only when something truly unusual were to happen. The words </span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText-Italic"; font-size: 19.08pt; font-style: italic;">incredibile</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;"> (incredible)and </span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText-Italic"; font-size: 19.08pt; font-style: italic;">mai</span><span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;"> (never) were repeated often and by everyone. The Trenitalia guy setting up his new phone across the table from me sent me sympathetic looks and the occasional sardonic eyebrow lift. He wanted me to know we were kindred souls even if his set up was going smoothly. We had reached the point where highly trained techies who love a good problem were tethering (note the Computer Savvy Vocabulary) my iPad to various phones and computers while interfacing (again note the CSV) with help desks halfway around the world in a last ditch effort to make things work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">The Trenitalia guy took out a package of crackers and I cursed my short-sighted planning. I must have looked hungry because he offered me a cracker, not enthusiastically but possibly with the thought it could prevent me from going postal while he was still in the store. I refused. In hindsight, I probably should have taken the cracker. I don't function well when hungry and this was turning into a situation requiring me to be more functional than usual.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">While I sat waiting and watching the techies doing their respective things, business as usual was happening all around us. People bought, set up and left with their new Apple products never knowing the drama unfolding around my iPad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">At one point the techie (number unknown) leaned over and with a small smile said "Look over there, we have a priest in the store. Should we ask him to bless your computer?" And then he immediately looked horrified and said "Oh no! I was only joking!" I'm not gonna lie.....it sounded like a great idea. It had as good a chance of working as any of the other things they were attempting. I bit back a snort/laugh and said that maybe, no, we shouldn't bother him on his day off. The techie (number unknown) looked confused and then concentrated on the computer again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">Not long after I refused divine intervention the manager came to me with a sad expression on his face. "We are unable to find a solution to make the English keyboard work with the iPad. Can you be happy with an Italian keyboard?" He waited expectantly while I thought. I had to think. Leif's old computer had an Italian keyboard and I spent an inordinate amount of time searching desparately for punctuation and shouting "Dammit!" as I pounded on the delete key. Some keys have three symbols and the one I want is nearly always used in tandem with something other than the shift key and there are extra vowels sporting fancy accents where my puctuation by rights ought to be. But I really, really didn't want to spend my life typing with two fingers on the screen of the iPad either. Hunger may have also been a factor. So I agreed. Reluctantly. And for my reluctance they gave me the keyboard for free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">Many people would call that a win-win situation. I got my iPad and a free if confusing keyboard. But I want a little bit more. I want to know how a product developed and made in the US can't interface with an English keyboard made by the same company even if it's sold in Italy. How is it even possible for something Apple to be incompatable with another something that is also Apple? I didn't buy some aftermarket off-brand keyboard off the sidewalk from an unlicensed vendor. I didn't download some third party app that would magically turn my keyboard English and plant some virus inside my computer. I bought products who are the very essence of compatability, in a city teeming with young Americans who don't buy anything that isn't Apple. How has this never occurred before?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">I suppose I could binge watch Downton Abbey, Monty Python and Fawlty Towers, maybe even a little rugby on the iPad while eating fish and chips, possibly scones? and drinking Guiness and tea by the gallon in the hopes that the keyboard will begin to think it's English. But in my dream world, Apple learns of this fiasco and, horrified, sends me an English keyboard that works. And like $20 in the itunes store to blow on whatever strikes my fancy. Dream big I say.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">Also, Apple should give those guys at the Florence store a bonus. They did everything they could to make me happy. It's not their fault I'm only mostly content rather than ecstatic.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 19.08pt;">PS: If you're wondering about my phone, it went much better than the iPad. My initial freak out when I discovered my sim card was too big to fit into the slot on the iPhone was eased when the lady at the phone store we use (I just didn't have the balls to go to the Apple store for help. I mean, damn, they'd totally recognize me and know I didn't buy it there) showed me how to make it smaller and set everything up so I could use it. There was a tense moment when she couldn't get the phone to connect to the wifi and I very nearly had a panic attack right there in the store because it wouldn't surprise me if I got the one bad phone out of the 5,000 shipped to that outlet. Luckily, she had a cooler head than me and went to plan B immediately, which worked and I walked out the door with a working phone in a language I could function in. It's a giant leap forward in technology so my learning curve still involves a lot of swearing and confusion but the phone itself works.</span></div>
Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-21793736311422200082017-04-10T15:17:00.000+02:002017-04-10T15:36:14.660+02:00It's Questura time again<div class="MsoNormal">
It’s been five years since Leif and I got married and the
endless work of fulfilling the Italian lust for bureaucracy began winding down
to its logical (but not necessarily logical, because you just never know with
the Italian gov’t) conclusion. At the end of May the paperwork we spent months working for expires.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Well, that’s not technically true. If you’ll recall, when
last we met over the topic of bureaucracy, the <i>Questura</i>, and my permission to stay in Italy I was ecstatic because
instead of being granted a one or two year permission to stay I got a piece of
paper that was good for five years. Five years! A giant weight lifted off my
shoulders at that thought, because the <i>Questura</i>
is hands down my least favorite Italian place to visit. It’s a soul sucking and
mind bending experience that is only worth it because at the end you get the
thing you most desire….permission to stay in Italy.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I dreaded 2017’s arrival because it meant going back to the
paperwork of applying for my<i> Permesso di
Soggiorno.</i> I remembered five years ago I was given a single piece of paper
and was completely astounded that permission to stay with a spouse required
less paperwork than the ½” stack for a one year study. I was fooled, of course,
because they asked for more (see post from that experience <a href="http://peopleaskmewhy.blogspot.it/2012/07/questurathe-saga-continues.html" target="_blank">here</a>, I won’t bore
you with recapping the whole thing) and we scrambled to get those papers from
one government entity to another in a timely manner. I was legitimately
freaking out over re-applying because even with all their schedules and footnoted
directions it’s always difficult filling out paperwork in Italian. I’m not
always sure about what they’re asking or if I’m answering correctly and so many
of the questions sound very ambiguous till I ask an Italian and they tell me
what they think it means and I’m seriously surprised that I didn’t even
consider their answer a possibility.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It’s also important to start the paperwork early, like
waaaay before the expiration date, several months at least in order to give the
government time to do whatever it is they do to make sure you’re legit before
printing your piece of paper, stapling your picture onto it and hermetically
sealing it together with clear mailing tape. I had further motivation to get
things done quickly and properly as we’re hoping to travel outside the EU this
year and I need my <i>Permesso</i> to get
back in.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did a little research online about renewing my <i>Permesso</i>. It seems that many rules
changed in 2016 and I wasn’t sure what the consequences would be for me. I even
read blogs about those with work or just the funds to stay in Italy and it
seemed that it would be more difficult with more paper and that didn’t ease my
mind one bit. Which only freaked me out more. I was practically
hyperventilating for days thinking about how to get the paperwork needed to get
my new <i>Permesso</i>. I can’t even
remember what prompted me to take out my <i>Permesso</i>
and really read it but when I did I was both astonished and embarrassed.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Good Lord. For five years I’ve worried on and off about the
prospect of renewing my Permesso. Sweated over the myriad ways I might find all
the right pieces of paper that said all the right things so I could get the
magical stamp of approval from Italy. Had myself convinced that at any moment
Italy might decide it didn’t want me anymore and I’d be summarily escorted to
the border, kissed on both cheeks and sent into a land more foreign to me than
Italy to try and find shelter. Like France or Switzerland. Possibly Austria. Or
Croatia, where I could drown my sorrows in <i>slivovitz</i>.
I mean I really really worried about this.<o:p></o:p></div>
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All this time I thought I had this temporary permission to
stay, something that I had to prove over and over again, always with the
possibility that I’d say the exact wrong thing or present the wrong piece of
paper to an Italian official having a bad day and the above scenario would
unfold before I had time to pack.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The truth is I have a <i>Carta
di Soggiorno</i>, which is a whole different animal from the <i>Permesso</i>. How is it different? Well, the
<i>Permesso</i>, as I’ve said, has to be
renewed and reviewed on a frequent basis and is always vulnerable to refusal. A
<i>Carta di Soggiorno</i> has no expiration
date. But every five years, whether to keep track of foreigners or to ensure a
healthy income from fees, I have to update my photo. How did I miss this subtle
yet important difference? Well, when I finally got my paperwork at the Questura
five years ago I was so stunned and thrilled and afraid of losing it or
something equally disastrous that I ran home with it, read it through once
(thereby discovering I could pack it in mothballs for five years) and tucked it
into a plastic sheet protector which I filed away in the place I put everything
I don’t want to lose. I never thought to sit down and actually read it, even
when my Italian reached a point where I might actually comprehend some of what
it said. But when I was reading all the horror stories of others trying to
renew their <i>Permesso</i>, I decided to
read it again. Right at the top, in giant how-the-hell-did-I-miss-<i>that</i> letters it clearly reads <b><i><u>Carta</u></i></b><i> di Soggiorno</i>. Five years of
anticipatory stress for nothing. Argh.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Oh, I still have to fill out the stressfully worded
paperwork and pay those fees at the Poste Italiane to a postal worker who
really doesn’t want to answer any questions about why the fees are suddenly
twice as much as I thought they should be. I’ll still stress about whether or
not they’ll actually renew what is essentially permission to stay permanently
without the need for review because I’ll still have to visit the Questura where
uncertainty and hopelessness have permeated the walls. No one leaves happy,
even when they get exactly what they came for.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I did get the first part done: paperwork filled out, the
correct Marco di Bollo (tax stamp) affixed in the correct place, and the short
but sweet conversation with the postal worker who shoved my paperwork back at
me and said if I had questions get them answered by someone else to which I
thought “Oh hell no” and paid the damn fees. She then handed me my appointment
slip for the Questura.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Now I did all this quite early, I thought. We aren’t
traveling until August and my picture on the paperwork with no expiration date
is good till the end of May. Imagine our surprise (you didn’t think I went
through this alone, did you? Of course, I brought Leif along) when we realized
my appointment is for August, more than week after we fly out of Italy.
Apparently the timeline has changed in the last five years. Instead of a couple
of months lead time we should have planned on six months lead time. The only
good news is that I can reenter Europe with my receipt and if past experience
is any indicator my paperwork won’t be ready on time. In fact, it might not be
ready when I come back six weeks later. Then again, because the universe loves
to play with me, this time everything will work perfectly and my paperwork will
be ready and waiting for me at 9:29am on 7 August. I just hope it'll still be there when I do finally get back into Italy.</div>
Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-81536118199711710012016-11-14T15:44:00.000+01:002016-11-14T15:44:11.809+01:00Life goes on...The elections are over....thank the universe for that. What happens now will be important to everyone and while we fight the good fight (whichever side you may align yourself with) life still goes on. Stomachs must be filled, bills paid, decisions big and small made, etc. With that in mind (and the fact that I've neglected writing here for far too long) it's time to share the utterly mundane story of changing apartments here in Florence.<br />
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After five lease-less years in an apartment that was large at 75 sq meters and boasted an actual space to store things, we decided to move. This wasn't a decision taken lightly or quickly. We watched our former apartment disintegrate around us. A leak in the roof, unacknowledged and in fact denied by our landlord, caused the ceiling to begin to fall in the kitchen and hallway. The few electrical outlets that worked became tenuous in their connections. We flushed our toilet with a bucket because the inner workings had become so old that the water ran constantly so we just turned it off. The boiler for the radiator was declared too old at its last inspection and would have to be replaced. No window or door except for the door into the apartment latched properly certainly putting pressure on the already old boiler as it struggled to heat the constant flow of outside air. In fact, we had to pile everything heavy we owned in front of the terrace doors to keep them closed when the wind was strong because the latch was broken. Right before we left the water heater started dripping....I couldn't imagine a winter without heat or hot water.<br />
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So we started looking for a new place to live. Still in Florence because our work requires access to transportation and tourists but closer to the south side where most of our riding and working happens. I'd look around in English language sites for adverts, call or email and discover that as soon as the ad was placed it was rented. Argh! Finally I called early enough to get a chance to actually view an apartment. We were one of the first to see it and because he had a week filled with appointments to see the apartment we decided to take it that same night. And because I'm certifiably insane at times we placed our move in date a week later.<br />
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We had to give notice at our old place (don't laugh and say why...we're built that way) so we had a month to move between the two places. A month while I was still working full time at the apprenticeship to decide what to throw and what to keep and how to move it all. The new place is smaller by 20 sq meters so everything couldn't come with us.<br />
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Our rather fabulous new landlord helped us with his van a couple of times to move the big stuff. Everything else we moved by bike. Every day during the month of May both Leif and I made multiple trips across town filling bags and banana boxes, the do-it-yourself-movers box of choice.<br />
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That's right. Several times each day we would ride across town to the old apartment to pack up the next load. I would fill my 33 liter back pack with more than 33 liters of probably breakable stuff as my body cushioned the potholes. Depending on what we were moving I'd strap a banana box down to the rear rack on my bike and toss something usually too big into my rapidly disintegrating front basket. Sometimes I'd use a giant blue IKEA bag instead of a banana box because I could get more clothes into it. Leif would fill both panniers and balance a banana box on top of those while carrying his backpack too. Then we would start, slowly, across town. Half the trip happened on city streets, the other half on a disconnected series of bike lanes dodging pedestrians and cross traffic to arrive home. We rode along the Arno and bounced past the Uffizzi and Ponte Vecchio (cobblestones, wow) before crossing the river into the San Frediano section of town. I went head to head with taxis, other cyclists, scooter drivers, horse-drawn carriages and tourists who refused to allow an obviously overloaded, precariously balanced middle-aged woman on a POS bike to pass.<br />
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Repeat until your butt hurts, your back hurts, your knees hurt and the bike starts rattling too loudly to ignore. Then do it some more. And Leif did this twice as much as I did because he had some full days off that all he did was ride between the two places loaded down with stuff. He's the true hero of this story.<br />
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If you're going to ask my why, and that is what I answer with this blog as much as possible, my answer is that we have made the conscious choice to live as much as possible without a car. While friends and family shook their heads and laughed at us for taking, in their opinions, the hard way to move, we were taking the only option available to us. And face it, if we moved like everyone else there'd be no story to tell, would there?Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-16397644395565480422016-07-15T12:46:00.000+02:002016-07-15T12:46:01.207+02:00Taking my life backA couple of days ago I quit my apprenticeship. It was hard; I had poured so much of myself into it in the last seven months. Too much, in fact. Instead of enhancing our lives by providing a steady income it obliterated every other facet of my life. No rides with Leif, no painting, no writing (you probably noticed that) and no contact with friends.<br /><br />For the first months I accepted this as normal. Basically giving my life over to another person or corporation and accepting their value of my time and talents is the very bedrock of the “steady job” as I experienced it in Minnesota. In exchange for X amount of dollars I willingly chained myself to a desk, accepted someone else's evaluation of my skills and personality and took time off only when it was approved. I wasn't surprised by it or bothered so much because, as I understood it, this was just the way things worked. This apprenticeship started the same way, which six years ago wouldn't have made me blink.<br /><br />The difference is that I'm not in Minnesota anymore. I moved 4755 miles to create and experience a different kind of lifestyle. It was happening: I was training to be a cycle tour guide and learning how to help Leif manage the business better so we could live life on our own terms. I was seduced by the money and didn't anticipate the total destruction of the life I'd worked so hard to create.<br /><br />No. I'm not being dramatic. I ate, drank and slept cake. For a time my sense of self was centered around this job and the unfortunate part is that I did it for free. I bought into someone else's dream for potential income and security. And then I began to accept someone else's valuation of my skills and personality. (that's right, my personality apparently needed work too) I think you can guess how things went. We can never live up to the expectations of someone else and that ate at me so much that I started losing weight, losing my hair and losing sleep.<br /><br />At first I thought it was my fault, which only made matters worse. Then one day I sat myself down and thought hard...not about how I could do the job better, be a different person, whatever....but if what the job was expecting was realistic. If it fit into the lifestyle I had been working towards pre-cake making. The answer was no, and the relief that I felt when I recognized that was physical.<br /><br />I didn't move 4755 miles from everything I knew and everyone I loved to have the same life I had in Minnesota. I moved here not just to live differently, but to be different. I don't want to live my life at top speed desperately trying to fulfill some one else's expectations at rock bottom prices. If I must work for a dream then by all means it should be my own. And so I'll go back to my bike riding, painting, writing, nap taking (I did miss those...), spending time with Leif and friends kind of life.<br />
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And so next week I start working for myself again. It feels good.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-53404927789235253532015-12-01T20:38:00.000+01:002015-12-01T20:38:02.118+01:00Workin' for a livin'Anyone who has followed my life over the last five years has probably wondered "And just what the heck does she do all day?" Some days I wonder the same thing.<br />
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My stock answer, until a week ago, was "As little as possible," usually said in a half wistful, half boastful kind of way. Because yes, it's great to have all kinds of free time to pursue any idea that sparks your mind. I've had the chance to learn to ride a road bike. I've wallowed in my art. I've babysat. I've dogsat (is that a word?). I've taught English (a real English teacher would know if dogsat was a word). I've attempted yoga.<br />
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I learned some valuable lessons. I learned that as cute and loveable as kids and dogs are, they are expert at pushing my buttons. Buttons I prefer to leave unpushed at this time. Being able to speak English like a native does <i>not </i>make me a passionate teacher of language. Yoga, well...let's just not go there. I'm incapable of attaining, much less holding, the pretzel position for any length of time. Which leaves the two things I really, really do feel passionate about. Cycling and art. Two jobs that only the extremely talented can really make a living at. So for the longest time I've been content to pursue the things I enjoy and practiced patience in waiting for <i>that thing</i> to come along.<br />
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Being able to contribute to the household is important to me, and while all the stuff I do isn't exactly nothing, I still have always felt a little like I'm taking advantage. Like I'm making Leif do all the work while I lollygag around the apartment eating bonbons and reading trashy magazines. (By the way that's not true. I seem to have lost my craving for chocolate, and the last time I picked up a People Magazine I didn't recognize a single name or face. I'm rather proud of that.) So I do always keep my eyes open for opportunities.<br />
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I found one such opportunity on the Facebook page of a creative group I belong to. A group I wouldn't have belonged to three years ago because I hadn't really embraced my artistry yet. After several email exchanges, one phone call, one face to face interview and one full day interview/audition I have exciting news. I have a job! Well, let me rephrase that a little.<br />
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I'm participating in the centuries old, time honored tradition of apprenticeship. Appropriate, I think, to be doing this in Italy, where hand craft and hand made are still respected skills. The great masters have always had apprentices. I am so excited that I was one of two people chosen to begin training with one of the top wedding cake designers in Italy, Melanie Secciani of Tuscan Wedding Cakes. Like the great masters, she's pretty much going to share everything that she knows about her business with us, teach us the basic skills, then turn around and ask us "Now what will <i>you </i>do with all this information? What's <i>your </i>interpretation of the things I taught you?"<br />
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This job (because one day I will cease to be an apprentice and become an employee) is the perfect blend of art and food. Making something beautiful that pleases not just the eye, but also the mouth. Creating something that takes the breath away even as it fills the heart with memories. I've waited a long time for <i>this thing </i>to come along. This thing that I can throw myself into fully and probably become slightly obsessed with. I'm so ready for this.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-84253911565610139722015-11-21T17:55:00.000+01:002015-11-21T17:55:32.501+01:00My least favorite topic in the world: Politics<b><u>4 years ago</u></b><br />
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I cringe every time I sit down with one of my Italian friend because lately the one question they always ask me is what I think about the political situation in the US. Then they go on to cite a European newspaper or news program that has reported on some aspect of the election or the latest stupidity to come out of someone's mouth.<br />
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They want to know what I think. They believe so easily what they hear from what they view as reputable sources and want to use me as a kind of fact checking resource for their next conversation with their friends. They know what politics is here in Italy. They want to hear that it's different in the US. That our choices are broader and less mired in back-room negotiations. They don't want to believe most of what they are hearing about the presidential candidates. <i><b>I </b></i>don't want to believe that they say and do the things they say and do. Most days to me the political news sounds like a poorly written soap opera, and badly acted as well.<br />
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I don't have the words in Italian, I practically don't have them in English, to explain how to view the political landscape in the United States. Because as much as we'd like to believe that we are different, that our struggles for democracy have somehow made us immune to the problems that other countries experience, the truth is that we aren't.<br />
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We throw democracy around us like a magic cloak and pretend that the things that are happening can't be seen and certainly can't be felt because they are part of the democratic process. During an election year we say and do things that we would consider the height of poor taste and crude behavior in any other year and chalk it up to political fervor as if that should excuse everything and anything.<br />
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The truth is, there is no truth in politics. Every word that we hear and read, every word that we speak ourselves is delivered with a political, commercial, corporate or personal agenda. The truth is there is no one neutral enough to deliver a fair estimation of the candidates in this election.<br />
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<b><u>Today, 4 years later</u></b>. Nothing has changed, except that the players are even more outrageous, the non-partisan reporting even more partisan, and the public even more confused than in the previous election. World events have muddied the political waters even more by throwing fear into the equation. My heart aches for everyone.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-32747730388115593512015-06-28T20:46:00.000+02:002015-06-28T20:46:48.765+02:00How simple stuff becomes complexI recently discovered that to use a notary here in Florence isn't as easy as back in Minnesota; land where you can walk into your bank, many state or county offices and lots of businesses and ask if they have a notary and they'll say "Sure! Come on in and sit down. Show me your license, sign here." Then a flurry of activity as they stamp, date, sign and stamp again with a flourish. You put your license away and ask how much it costs. They quote you anywhere from "It's free if you have an account," to "Two bucks", which you happily pay and leave having spent less than 15 minutes from start to finish and with enough money left in your pocket for lunch.<br />
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At least this is what it was like when I got married 3 years ago and had to change nearly every piece of identifying paper I owned.<br />
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Fast forward to last week, when I discovered that my Power of Attorney wasn't <i>specific</i> enough for the state of Minnesota. Even though the definition of durable PoA is pretty clear, Minnesota has decided in the last five years that the definition is a little too loose. So no problem, I write a more specific PoA. This requires a notary to witness my signature. That's it. They don't check my document for content or correctness, just watch me sign and check my face against my passport photo.<br />
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Well, in Italy being a Notary is a full time job, not one small portion of the total job description, and they share offices with lawyers. I'm certain it involves an armada of stamps in varying sizes, colors and degrees of importance in addition to the stamp I'll still probably have to buy at a tobacco shop (not the PO). It requires an appointment and the cost is 100euro. Yikes. I mean, maybe there's more to this notary business than I understand, but mostly I see them verify my identity by looking at me and my passport (repeat twice,maybe that's where the cost comes in?) and stamp the document without caring what the document is.<br />
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In a true brain storm I checked online with the US Consulate. I still have to make an appointment but they only charge $50....with the caveat that Italian banks only accept bills in good condition so if you bring the equivalent in euros make sure they're <i>pretty</i>. I haven't been home long enough to attempt making an appointment....chances are even if it is the <i>American Consulate</i> it's in Italy and therefore fraught with danger and inexplicable rules, the first of which is probably that the appointment you make online isn't a slave to your schedule but to the Consulate's. You get what you get (it's all online and I'm afraid to go too far into the process and end up with an appointment I can't keep) and rearrange your schedule around it. So I'm waiting till after I get home next week to even attempt to make an appointment.<br />
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I'd like to think walking into the Consulate here is like walking into any American government office. In other words, not exactly a visit to Disney World, but a place that follows understandable rules and works pretty straightforwardly. But I've heard rumors that it's staffed by Italians and therefore I shouldn't be surprised by strange requests and unwritten rules and generally feeling like I <i>should</i> feel comfortable but somehow just don't.<br />
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I'll be sure to take excellent notes in case anything truly exciting or note worthy happens. For me, of course, the truly exciting thing would be for everything to go smoothly....they verify that I am in fact me, I sign my document, stamp stamp stamp, pay my $50 and head home for a well deserved and stiff drink.<br />
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A girl can dream. Right?Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-73645019056210450942015-05-27T18:16:00.000+02:002015-05-27T18:16:29.981+02:00How to handle sorrowI'm struggling today. Actually, for a few days. For the second time since I moved here I'm trying to deal with death from 7, 650 kilometers away.<br />
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Initially there's the dilemma of how to convey my sympathy to someone so very far away. My grief doesn't have words that haven't been rendered meaningless by eons of use and repetition. There are no new words to say that my heart is crying with yours, and I don't know when it will stop.<br />
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The fact that I can only communicate in the written word makes it even more difficult. I hope that they hear my voice as they read words that seem stripped of their emotion by the fact that they're framed by something as mundane as an email platform.<br />
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I'm also reminded that life begins and ends without warning and without mercy, and that I will have to do this many times. Sometimes, as with this moment, death will only brush the edges of my existence, but one day it will strike at the center of my world. While I can't possibly prepare for it I must at least acknowledge that those 7,650 kilometers will both magnify and dull my responses.<br />
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And so now I'll sit down and have a good cry for a life ended too soon, a family surely broken and lost at least for now, and a community left wondering <i>what if</i>.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-27734089470797614372015-05-22T17:38:00.000+02:002015-05-22T17:38:32.903+02:00Visiting MilanBig news! For years we've been going to Milan, but only to catch a plane. Because that's where Europe's cheapest carrier flies out of regularly. So I've seen the central train station (a lot) and Bergamo (a suburb, again, a lot) I've never <i><b>seen </b></i>Milan. This week we fixed that.<br />
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Milan is different from Florence in a lot of ways. It's modern sections are incredibly modern and big parts of the historic center are about a century younger than Florence's center. The people are more likely to talk to a stranger. The pizza put me into a dairy coma.....seriously like an American pizza which I'm not used to anymore.<br />
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Our story begins as we get off the train and try to find our way out of the station. It reminded me of Charles de Gaulle airport in Paris. No signs (that I could see anyway) and too many options to take. Luckily Leif has been there before and managed to get us to the street. If I were in charge we'd probably still be wandering around the station; starved, dehydrated and slightly insane. I thought once we left the station the hard part was over. I was wrong.<br />
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We brought a map along. It's large (Milan is a large city) and on the cover is a picture of a labyrinth. I should have known it wouldn't be easy after seeing that. We walked to a bench and sat down to look at the map and a very nice older woman stopped and asked us (in English) if we needed some help. I kind of gasped and looked at her with my jaw at about knee level. I'm not used to this kind of thing. She noticed my surprise and took it for confusion. "Should we use English, or perhaps French?" she asked with a bright smile. I kind of stuttered out <i>"Parliammo l'Italiano,"</i> and <i style="font-weight: bold;">she</i> looked confused, then smiled again and started in (at about a hundred miles an hour) in Italian. She gave us very complete and precise instructions, said <i>"Va bene!"</i> and left us with a spring in her step, confident that she had saved us from wandering aimlessly.<br />
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We looked at each other and shrugged because her directions were useless; she directed us to the tram line and we wanted to walk. <b>But</b> it was so lovely to have someone offer help without having to ask for it and having language options was almost unbelievable. We took our bearings from the map, folded it up and walked a few blocks in the direction we were certain we were supposed to go and realized we had no idea where we were. We unfolded the map, found that where we <b>thought </b>we were wasn't at all where we <b>actually</b> were, even though we took the street the map told us to. We got our bearings once more, folded up the map and walked confidently in our chosen direction. After a few blocks we weren't finding the cross street that we were supposed to turn at.<br />
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Hmmm, this was starting to be difficult. And before you all start rolling your eyes and thinking that we just had an old map I want to say one thing. These streets have been here for centuries. An Italian city may grow outwards (like any large city) but the streets that exist, especially in any historic center, are set in stone...pun intended.<br />
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rental bikes....stations like this all over the center.</td></tr>
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Back to our wandering, which continued in much the same way for about the next hour. We would locate our destination, find our current location, and decide on the most direct route possible. 20 steps into our next leg of the journey always found us scratching our heads and wondering how we could be on the same road we started on, yet headed in a direction that seemed to lead somewhere else. We nearly circled our destination, the Bianchi Cafe & Cycles shop, without actually seeing it. I found myself yearning for the tried and true grid system that much of Minnesota is laid out into.<br />
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At the risk of offending certain friends, it was like someone from Minneapolis trying to find an address in St. Paul. (or any of the bedroom suburbs that have hundreds of cul de sacs and no actual downtown) Streets in Italy wander, they change names frequently, the signs are difficult to find and more often more difficult to read and every town is dotted with Piazzas that everyone uses for landmarks (but when you really <i>need</i> to find one it's not clearly marked).<br />
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If I hadn't started getting hungry it might have been quite an adventure, but hunger made me a little testy. Leif might revise that to mighty testy, but I'm sticking with just a little. After that long wandering around I began to understand why the woman was kind enough to try and help us earlier. She's probably seen people sitting on the curb weeping in frustration, never knowing that the place they've been searching for is right around the corner. They've been circling it because the street isn't marked. I also understand why she seemed so intent on getting us to the tram. We would have gotten most of the way there without getting lost. Well, in an ideal world perhaps, but we stood a better chance with the tram.<br />
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Once in the <strike>basement</strike> shop we ate a few almonds and raisins to hold us through to lunch and got down to the serious business of looking at bikes. I'm not gonna lie to you, I was seriously disappointed to see a single woman's bike among all the other bikes. Then again I was already disappointed because this shop was tiny compared to the one in Stockholm. AND they don't let you try the bikes. Which is weird because I understood that part of the purpose of these kind of shops was to show off and try out the new bikes. I will probably always have these languages difficulties.<br />
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We spent a good hour touching all (I do mean <i>all</i>) the bikes and asking maybe a million questions and generally making ourselves kind of a nuisance. But in our defense we will someday be buying one (or more) of these bad boys, so our questions are a small investment in a later sale.<br />
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All good things must come to an end. We ran out of bikes to touch and questions to ask and I distinctly heard lunch calling my name, so we said good bye to the guys in the shop and headed out to find lunch and to see the sights, in that order.<br />
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We walked through the Galleria <span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.3999996185303px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Vittorio Emmanuelle</span></span>, a tunnel shaped, glass covered street with a lot of fancy shops. We walked by Teatro alla Scala opera house. Then, (my favorite part) we went to the Castello Sforzesco. We wandered through the castle walls and courtyards, reading every sign and learning a little of the history of the castle and Milan. Then we walked through to the other side, which is a large public park. We sat for awhile just enjoying the day and being off our feet.<br />
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<br />I do have to say that finding our way out was far easier than finding our way into the center. We found the station with no problem. Finding our track proved to be difficult because the station remained as like the Paris airport as before, the sign for our track was at the bottom of escalator. So you have to get where you're going before you can see the sign to where you need to go. Did that make sense?<br />
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Once on the train we could relax, laugh a little bit about the day and look forward to getting home. It was fun, but I'm glad I live in a city that no longer confuses the hell out of me every time I step out the door. I suppose if I lived in Milan, <i>someday </i>I'd be better at finding my way around, but I don't think I would like living there. Yes, it's more international because so many businesses are based out of Milan, but with that international exposure and resulting openness to strangers and strange things also comes a more cosmopolitan attitude about everything. Things cost more. People are dressed more outrageously. Street vendors are downright aggressive in their quest to put a selfie stick into the hands of every tourist. Manners are less elegant. More modern doesn't always translate into more beautiful or more desirable. I think I'll just put this in the column of "a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there."<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Totally cool buildings I read about that have full size trees on the terraces<br />and a lot of other energy saving and producing details.<br /><a href="https://www.google.it/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=8&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CDwQFjAH&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.spiegel.de%2Finternational%2Feurope%2Fmilan-architects-build-vertical-forest-apartment-towers-a-886153.html&ei=00tfVZDvMIT4ygPHqICwAw&usg=AFQjCNHp0qzz1dGr0I_lq2aw96im6e1K0Q&sig2=I559F1dqaSFHHYlefu4Drw&bvm=bv.93990622,d.bGQ" target="_blank">read about it here</a></td></tr>
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Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-79263252714873947432015-05-10T20:29:00.000+02:002015-05-10T20:29:12.197+02:00Revolution of a cyclist: best pick up line EVERIt's been a good week for me in the cycling department. I've ridden four times. Two of the rides were long and included climbs that I would have avoided like the plague last year. I just don't think I can pull off this "I'm new to cycling" thing much longer. People are catching on.<br />
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Today I rode with friends Barbara and Rossano. A nice easy ride to the most beautiful pastry I've had in a while. Seriously. Just out of the oven sfogliatina with cream inside. Warm, gooey cream. Flaky pastry. Cinnamon sugar on top. I nearly swooned.<br />
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I thought the pastry was going to be the most memorable part of the ride. I was wrong.<br />
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After saying goodbye to Barbara I headed across town to my home. This route takes me on a large street which has three painted lanes but since all the drivers are Italians (or lost tourists) the reality is that there are anywhere from three to five lanes and <i>that </i>number is always changing. The traffic here doesn't march along in single file like ants carrying food back to the anthill. It's more like a buffalo stampede. If your car fits, shove it in. If you can intimidate the driver next to you, do so. You can signal your turn if you want to, but who has the time? More efficient to use the horn. Don't even get me started on how to drive those hypothetical three lanes when one lane is strewn with randomly double parked cars who will <i>only be there for a minute</i>.<br />
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This is the gauntlet I run every time I come home from the park. Just to make it even more fun there are two underpasses that descend and ascend quickly and sharply. I have around two feet between a concrete barrier and the moving cars. In an effort to get it over with as quickly as possible I tend to treat this section of road like a sprint however I'm always pretty tired so I'm never sure if the speed I feel like I've reached is really there or only in my mind.<br />
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Today I can say with confidence that I had some actual speed going. How do I know? Someone told me.<br />
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After sprinting uphill through my 2-3 foot wide lane I stopped at the unfortunately red light and sort of wheezed for a bit. (it's hot, I wheeze when it's hot) Suddenly, from over my shoulder I heard a voice.<br />
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<i>"Fai il Giro d'Italia?" </i>(Are you doing the Giro d'Italia?) Funny man.<br />
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I should have trusted my instincts and kept looking straight ahead, but he kept repeating it as he slowly inched forward (sorry my metric friends but centimetered forward just sounds wrong). Slowly the driver, a man with longish greying hair, aviator shades and a killer tan got the car, a smallish Ford convertible, far enough forward to make eye contact. Because I couldn't ignore him anymore. The scooter drivers around me were starting to look at me like I was being sort of a bitch for not acknowledging the guy. So I looked over and he asked me yet again if I was doing the Giro d'Italia, confident he had chosen the perfect pick up line for this situation.<br />
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Instead of doing what I think he expected me to do, which would be to flutter my eyelashes, wave my hands around, blush (like that would be possible when my face was likely already a gorgeous shade of magenta), say "Who...me?" and possibly giggle, I just said no.<br />
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Obviously not one to take a little bump in the road seriously, he tried to joke with me about my riding. Thankfully the light changed and I started to roll forward.<br />
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<i>"Di dove sei?"</i> he shouted after me. <i>"Germania?"</i> (Where are you from? Germany?)<br />
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<i>"No! Stati Uniti!"</i> I shouted as I took off, thinking this ended the conversation.<br />
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I seemed to have forgotten just how relentless the Italian male is when in the grip of the delusion that every woman wants him.<br />
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He pulled up next to me, matched my speed (much to the chagrin of the drivers in that hypothetical lane) and shouted <i>"Parla Italiano! Bene!"</i> and then entered into the negotiation phase. As the horns started honking behind him and I started riding slower to encourage him to move on he peppered me with questions.<br />
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Can we have a coffee? Perhaps a drink? But of course you want to clean up, how about after you get home? Why not? How long are you here? (gasp) You live here?!? Just a coffee. Or perhaps a drink? No? Insert a no after every question and you have my contribution to the conversation.<br />
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Finally he gave up. With shrug and a smile he slowly pulled away from me, leaving me to endure the angry looks of all the drivers who had been stuck behind his car as he tried to woo me into a date.<br />
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On one hand, even though it was a pretty cheesy line, I must have been riding hard enough to kind of impress him. On the other hand, I looked good enough while stinky, sweaty and covered in that cottonwood fluff stuck to my sunscreen to be worth the significant time he spent trying to persuade me to have a drink with him. Or perhaps a coffee.<br />
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Is it bad that I feel complimented by a cheesy come on line?Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-19665955658865023572015-03-16T11:16:00.000+01:002015-03-16T11:16:25.514+01:00How I ended up in ItalyIt occurs to me that not everyone knows the story of how I got from small town Minnesota (Ronneby pop.16) to Italy (Florence pop ~320,000) so here it is in gruesome detail.<br />
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2008 was the year that everything changed in my life. My husband of 18 years left...left me bankrupt, left me homeless...left. I got laid off in the collapse of the construction industry. I was starting from zero but with the love and support of my family and friends.<br />
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It's important to know what happened that year because those are the things that made me strong, fearless and open to every possibility that presented itself to me. Granted I wasn't all these things at first, but eventually I became these and so much more.<br />
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While all this was happening I was also finishing college, something I had put off when I had my children. I went to a small liberal arts college and it's not an exaggeration to say that being there at that time saved my life. In the interest of keeping this sort of short (I'll try!) I'll just say that I found some of the best friends I didn't know I needed there and through their love and butt kicking I never got to wallow in despair very long. For that I am eternally grateful.<br />
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And through the college (here's where the story really starts) I decided to participate in a three week study abroad program combining spirituality and art in Italy. My two favorite topics. Part of the course included a four day hike through the Tuscan hills following a pilgrimage trail.We had a guide for this part of the trip; a Swedish man named Leif.<br />
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Our group was small, only fifteen people, and we all became pretty close. When Leif joined us he became friendly with everyone (we are Minnesotans after all, everyone's our best friend) and as time went by he and I naturally gravitated toward each other because we were close in age. Naturally because except for one other student and the instructors everyone was under thirty years old, most under twenty-five. I had the teeniest crush on him. But after four days his time with us was over and we continued on to Asissi.<br />
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My instructors, both good friends, spent the days asking me questions. Sometimes really hard questions. They knew that this was the perfect opportunity for me to sort things out in my mind free from the routine and familiarity of life in Minnesota. As the days went by I found myself relaxing more and more fully into the rhythm of Italian life and discovered that this life felt right. I learned to live in the moment, something that absolutely flies in the face of my upbringing which focused on the need for planning and living for the future.<br />
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When I got back to Minnesota I felt strange. Sad. Blue. Lost. The first day I attributed it to jet lag.<br />
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The very next day I had lunch with a friend and his family and of all the places to go they chose The Rain Forest Cafe at the Mall of America. I spent the entire meal hugging my plate (the waitress kept trying to take it away from me. I don't know why) and jumping every time the weird mechanical monkeys started their thing or the fake thunderstorm started shaking the floor beneath my feet. I was practically crying from the stress of eating a simple meal.<br />
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Now I'll grant you that the restaurant choice was completely wrong for me, but it wasn't my choice and I'd never been there before and had no idea what I was in for. Take my advice and never eat there. I couldn't tell you a single thing about the food, I was so distracted by my environment. I don't think I even tasted what I was swallowing.<br />
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That's the event that triggered my decision to move to Italy.<br />
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The next day (once I'd recovered somewhat) I told a friend what had happened and said "I'm moving to Italy." This is a true friend. She didn't question my motivation or my decision she just said "That's a great idea!" At that moment I started planning my move here. I had about a year and a half to finish college and downsize my already severely shrunk life in preparation for moving.<br />
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I'll admit I went into this whole project rather blindly and without planning everything perfectly. I was immersed in enthusiasm but had a drought in the knowledge area. One thing I knew for sure was that I needed to know somebody. I mean <i>know</i> in the Italian network sense. You don't do anything here without a network. My network started with Leif.<br />
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We started emailing back and forth. The attraction we felt during our trip wasn't diminished by time or distance and in a short amount of time we graduated to regular Skype sessions too. He was a fountain of information as he moved here 6 years earlier and understood what I was trying to do. I also fell madly in love with him. I don't want to diminish the role that our romance played in all this. I may have given up at some point if it weren't for the fact that I had someone here I couldn't live without.<br />
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I know you're wondering what my friends and family thought about this. Look at the title of my blog. "Why?" was a question I was asked constantly, as if I was saying that life in Minnesota wasn't good and I was escaping to something better. That wasn't it at all. My life in Minnesota was good but I knew exactly what it would be. Life in Italy would be a mystery and I was ready for a little less planning and a little more living by the seat of my pants.<br />
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I came to Italy first as a tourist....a three month try-on if you will. Those three months only confirmed for me that this is where I should be so I went back to Minnesota to do the paperwork for a study visa (a friend of Leif's has a language school).<br />
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Italians invented bureaucracy so I had a million hoops to jump through. My favorite one is when getting a visa you must purchase your ticket <i style="font-weight: bold;">before</i> you send your request for a visa to the consulate. Yes you have to buy a ticket not knowing for sure if they''ll even grant you the visa to live here. You must also provide documents showing you have a program you're enrolled in (already paid for), a place to live (already paid for), insurance (already paid for) and what assets you intend to live on while here because they don't hand out work permits often.<br />
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My first year here was wonderful. I learned so much. Some Italian, some Swedish, about wine and food and their place in daily life, about Italians. It wasn't always easy but I never thought about moving back to the States. I knew that this is where I wanted to be.<br />
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Now you have to understand something. Italy isn't thrilled to have a lot of foreigners living here. Their bureaucracy was built on the premise that if you make something hard enough most everyone will throw up their hands in exasperation and quit. Student visas are only issued for a year at a time. I couldn't afford another year of lessons and by the end of my year I was getting pretty stressed about how to stay. My hair was falling out. I lost my appetite. Because I'm not independently wealthy and simply didn't have the resources to live without working and without those the Italian gov't didn't want me. I had no idea what to do.<br />
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One month before I as scheduled to leave Leif and I took a trip to Cinque Terre to hike the coast and there on the Via dell Amore he asked me to marry him. I said yes. All that was left was to go back to the States (because my visa was up) and plan a wedding in two short months that included the Christmas holidays.</div>
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And that's how I got here. A semi-abbreviated but thorough telling of the story. We live in Italy, we visit Sweden for several months during the year and I Skype with Minnesota as often as I can. We are slowly building the kind of life we both dreamed about when we moved here. It's not always easy but it's always worth the effort.<br />
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I'm guessing very few of you reading this know that I'm a painter with watercolors. It's not something I've ever really announced out loud or in fact even whispered softly. Too often it's been something I've almost apologized for; as if being creative is some sort of character defect to be ashamed of. I cringe when friends who know or my loving husband tells complete strangers "Yes, she's a watercolor painter!" I used to look around and wonder who they could be talking about (not ever for a moment thinking it could be me) and now I've learned to stand there and say "Why yes, I do paint," and hide the fact that I wish a hole would open up under my feet and swallow me whole.</div>
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This is ridiculous really because I graduated from college four years ago with a degree in, you guessed it, studio art. Ever since I can remember I've drawn, colored or painted my experiences. I was just brought up to think that it wasn't a responsible or sensible thing to do as a <i>vocation</i>. It's a nice little hobby but don't put all your eggs in the art basket; it's sure to break your heart and certainly won't feed you.</div>
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Then, as I said, a few months ago there was some kind of shift in the universe and some lovely things happened that still make my head spin and my heart sing.</div>
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First I shared a painting with an online art group and the response was phenomenal. To the point that people were asking if I'd consider making prints of some of my work. So that was revelation number one. People would actually be willing to pay for things that I had painted. Doesn't even matter if it would be $50.00 or $500.00, just the fact that someone was moved enough by a picture to want to see it every day simply boggles my mind.</div>
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The second moment came during an "art crawl" with a friend here in Florence. She's a textile designer and several of the studios we visited were textile designers or clothing designers and each time we talked to one of them she would introduce herself, then introduce me as her friend, the amazing water colorist. And this incredibly talented woman would then talk about how the three of us could find some way to collaborate. How she thought to lump me in with a bunch of professionals is beyond me, but it did help me to realize that the thing I tend to play down as a hobby many people view as a marketable skill.<br />
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The third amazing thing that happened was when a woman who is running an artists workshop online asked me to be a guest artist. This just shocked me because, without any previous friendship connection that might force her to include me and without really knowing anything more than what she saw of my work and my writing from another online group, she felt I had artistic skills to share and the verbal/written skills to share it.<br />
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She recognized me as an artist.<br />
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I wish I had the words to explain just what it means when complete strangers (ie people with no emotional ties or obligations to you) think of you first and foremost as an artist. I've been many things in my life...student, teacher, drafter, committee chair, the list is long. What I've never been until now is an artist. I was, for instance, a mother who liked to draw. Or a wife who painted sometimes. Or a co-worker whose cubicle was less cubicle-like.<br />
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I should have been thinking as I do now. I'm an artist who is also a wife. I'm an artist who cycles. I'm an artist who paints. I am an artist.</div>
Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-41493060907918715582015-02-20T11:32:00.001+01:002015-02-20T11:32:48.262+01:00Has anyone ever died from menopause?This is a completely serious question. I can't ask my family because keeping the uterus is new to my generation, and I'm the oldest. I didn't watch anyone go through it and there are no stories handed down (ie horror stories) for me to reference.<br />
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For those wondering why I don't just go online and look it up well I have a good reason. I know people so suggestive that just reading about symptoms inspires the body to have those symptoms. I don't want to be one of those people who asks WebMD what I might have and instead of menopause I have some rare cancer or jungle virus with no cure.<br />
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But I think it's entirely possible that my uterus is trying to kill me. For real.<br />
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There was the first flush of excitement when "that time of the month" skipped a few months. I thought the absence of hot flashes and wild emotional ups and downs meant I'd simply skipped over the nasty stuff and headed right into the last gasping moments of my fertility. I was wrong.<br />
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After the blissful quiet of those first months everything kind of exploded around me. First in the short span of eight weeks I had my period five times. It sounds physically impossible but it happened, thankfully without the PMS or physical discomfort that typically comes along for the ride. Apparently my ovaries started popping out eggs like a Pez dispenser (after years of a very casual attitude in that regard) and the rest of the process struggled to keep up. I was confused and so very grateful when that stopped.<br />
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This next phase I'm currently in (if indeed it's a phase of menopause and not some terrible disease) is where my cycle crushes me like a fly under a flyswatter. I'm perfectly fine, better than perfect in fact, when suddenly I have crushing headaches, impossible nausea and mind-numbing inertia and exhaustion for about a day and the next day my period shows up and all is fine again. Since this follows the rigid schedule that a normal woman's cycle would have I'm probably correct in attributing it to this. Also I would say that three months in a row can be considered a pattern and not a general OMG panic.<br />
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Oddly enough all the symptoms I've come to expect from this blessed time of life haven't occurred. No hot flashes. Well, unless they happen on the bike. I suppose that's possible. I do have problems at night. <b style="font-style: italic;">I</b> don't feel hot, but the sheets practically burn the skin off my body. (Maybe the linens are going through menopause.) No crazy emotional roller coaster. I'm going to blame the slight roundness I've accumulated over the winter to overeating and less cycling instead of to a change in metabolism. I do like to eat.<br />
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So what do you think people? Am I in the grip of menopause or am I just lumping a group of symptoms together that in reality should stand separate and alone? And the original question....can menopause kill you, or only make you incredibly uncomfortable for what feels like forever?<br />
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And, I'm almost afraid to ask, is this as bad as it gets or is there more to come? On second thought, maybe I don't want to know.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-15954135091908426842015-01-14T15:38:00.002+01:002015-01-14T15:38:53.395+01:00Swedes vs ItaliansOK. I know my husband hates when I compare Swedes with Italians. I think he feels that I'm harsh on the Swedes, and being a Swede he takes that rather personally. Can't argue with that. But still, after spending another three weeks in Sweden, living in Italy and most importantly, being an American and so not defensive about either position (and not claiming a preference either way) I try to give a neutral view and just report the facts as I see them. It's not my fault if it's funny too. So my apologies to him...I'm not mocking his culture. I'm mocking them both. I hope that helps.<br />
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Per: (hands in pockets) How about that game? <i>Vad sägs om det spelet?</i> Wow. <i>Oj.</i><br />
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Magnus: (hands in pockets) Yeah. <i>Ja.</i><br />
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Magnus: (with a half nod in the general direction of Per) Wow. <i>Oj.</i><br />
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Mario: What a game! Unbelievable!! <i>Che partita! Incredibile!!</i><br />
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Luigi: (begins talking before Mario can finish) That game?!? What were they thinking?!!? <i>Quel gioco?!? Quali sono state pensando?!!?</i><br />
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(thus begins a 45 minutes discussion of the players (and their history), the referees (their faults and snide references to their lineage), the coaches (whose minds are certainly a mystery to everyone in the discussion, which has probably grown by several people), the fans (who are great and terrible at the same time) and a general history of soccer. There is a flurry of waving hands, shaking heads and eye rolling during the entire discussion. In fact, the discussion continues until they've walked out of earshot of each other.)<br />
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All this observance brings to my mind two questions.<br />
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If Italians couldn't use hand gestures would they become mute?<br />
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What does it look like when Swedes play charades?<br />
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And now that I've offended nearly everyone I think my work here is done. Till another day.....Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-68605891879025746442014-11-06T18:53:00.000+01:002014-11-06T18:53:16.880+01:00Whaddya mean, I can't buy wine today?This morning we got up and over breakfast (which thankfully we never have to make a decision about, it's always the same) we got to talking about lunch. We decided to make chicken noodle soup so I made my grocery list and headed off in the pouring rain for the store.<br />
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I wandered through the produce section picking up a variety of veggies for the soup, then headed around the corner for the dairy and sale wine section.<br />
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<i style="font-weight: bold;">GASP!!</i> For some as yet unknown reason there was caution tape crisscrossing the section of shelving that had the sale wines on it. I stared in frustration at a note (in Italian naturally, which increased the time it took to read it from 10 seconds to 5 minutes) stating that the city of Florence had decreed that today only they were unable to sell drinks (read alcoholic drinks) in glass or cans. Store employees avoided looking directly at me as I tried to process this <strike>tragic</strike> unexpected information. Already at 8:30 in the morning they must have had to explain the logic of this city decision with mixed results....or perhaps not so mixed. Outrage. Frustration. But never acceptance. No....never.<br />
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Thinking that perhaps I misread the note (happens frequently) I <strike>rushed</strike> walked calmly to the real wine/beer/serious alcohol/salty snacks (cuz what's happy hour without snacks?) section where I found the same tape and notes. By the way, this is an entire aisle (both sides). I stood at the beginning of the aisle, speechless. Red and white tape stretched the length of the aisle, from top to bottom, occasionally punctuated by a bright white sheet of paper clearly stating that the city wouldn't allow them to sell drinks in glass or cans today.<br />
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I stood there, possibly with my mouth hanging open as I tried to understand at the unGodly hour of 8:30 am just why the city of Florence didn't want me to have wine. What had I done wrong? Better question....how did they even know I'd done anything wrong enough to have my wine privileges removed? (Because of course the world revolves around me, right?)<br />
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Then I remembered that there is a concert tonight at the stadium. Which shouldn't matter but apparently does. So on the way home (it's a 20 minute walk) I tried to figure out what exactly the city of Florence thought they were preventing when they stopped sale of wine <i>at 8:30 in the morning?</i><br />
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Did they think everyone with a ticket to the concert woke up this morning and thought "Holy cow! The concert is <i>today</i>! I better get out there and buy something to sneak into the concert!" like they haven't been thinking about this day for weeks....even an Italian plans ahead when it comes to alcohol.<br />
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Then I started to wonder why exactly they specified "glass or cans". Could I have brought in a goat skin to have filled up? If I bought a bottle and and emptied it into a massive American insulated "go cup" leaving the bottle at the store would that fulfill the letter of this insane law? Only later (sadly, much later, and Leif had to explain it) I realized that they do sell wine in boxes, sort of adult juice boxes. Not good wine. Not the wine I wanted, which is slightly bubbly, not too sweet not too dry and <i>perfect</i> for chicken noodle soup. But apparently the non-breakable, semi-biodegradable properties of the Tetrapak make it easier to pick up than glass or cans. I sort of get that. No, on second thought, I don't get it.<br />
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All anyone has to do is walk across the train tracks to buy drinks in any kind of container they please. Which I didn't because I have an attitude problem and discovered that the spumanti we already had in the fridge was a more than adequate substitute for the wine I wanted to buy. So I got wine with my lunch and no one had to die. Win-win.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-61626271506783650642014-10-26T12:07:00.000+01:002014-10-26T12:07:51.560+01:00Too many rather unexciting things to write about...Wow. Time flies. Not too original a beginning, but truth is truth.<br />
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All kinds of things happen to me and I think "I <i>have </i>to write about this!" and then I get distracted (easier than you might think) and suddenly it's a week or more later and then it doesn't seem relevant and well....you get the picture.<br />
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So I'm slowly going to catch up with all the things I had the <i>must write</i> thought about. Starting with our trip on Tuesday to Livorno (the seaside) with our friend Simone.<br />
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Simone is the husband of one of Leif's Swedish friends here in Florence. He travels for his work and sometimes when he's going somewhere interesting he invites us along. We don't have a car and so the opportunity to go places is really exciting. He drops us off somewhere central, goes off to do his thing and then picks us up again for lunch. He always takes us to the Italian version of the truck stop because he says they're more authentic. He's right. These are restaurants that cater to working people and the food is typical to the region and plentiful.<br />
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He took us to one of these on Tuesday after our very windy tour of downtown Livorno, which features a fortress turned into a city park, numerous statuary attempting to look dignified while covered in pigeons and seagulls, and the harbor itself with water stretching into infinity.<br />
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The restaurant is sort of the <i>Cheers</i> of suburban Livorno. Every time someone walked in the waiters threw up their hands and exclaimed loudly "<i>insert name here</i>! Welcome back!" Well, not for <b>us</b> of course, but Simone and everyone else totally got that kind of welcome.<br />
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The room was set up with long tables that everyone shared. We managed to snag one of the few tables for 4. The decibel level was pretty high, the waiters were sweating as they ran (really) back and forth while shouting questions at the customers and orders at the kitchen. The menu was posted on a chalkboard on the wall. One flat price for a first dish, second dish, side and dolce. Extra for house wine.<br />
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They specialized in seafood so that's what we had. Pasta with seafood and for a second mixed fried things. It's always an adventure to order something <i>al mare </i>or <i>misto</i> because not only is there a great variety of seafood put into these dishes, but the degree to which they are cleaned is often far less than I'm comfortable with. Remember, I grew up in Minnesota where shrimp are little pink crescents that come hermetically sealed in plastic from the freezer. I don't believe an octopus crossed the state line until a few years ago.<br />
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The shrimp were slightly breaded and fried but still wearing their skins, legs, antennae and eyes. Wow. The little fishes were simply gutted, then fried so they had a lot of extra stuff like fins and yes, eyes. One was a pretty reddish gold color. Simone looked at it and said that they were very good, that they come from aquariums. I looked at Leif (I'm sure my eyes were as big as the plate) and said "I just ate a goldfish?" Once I was over the shock of it all I had to agree it was pretty good, but still. A goldfish. Bleh. I won't even go into how ugly the baby octopus are once they've been fried. The calamari was the least shocking part of the whole <i>fritto misto</i> experience. It was also the least tasty. Nuff said.<br />
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While the chaotic dining room was a fantastic dip into the experience that is Italian family style dining, the relative calm of the cafe bar at the front was just as exciting for me. The barista, whose name was Barbara, was making these very interesting coffees and I couldn't stop watching her make them. And it seems that the other customers (regulars, I'm thinking) couldn't stop watching me watch her. I was mesmerized. One of the men sitting behind us asked if I wanted one, that I should have one. In fact, he'd have one with me if it would make me feel better. So of course I said yes.<br />
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Barbara carefully showed me each step in making this drink (because naturally I have a big ol' espresso maker at home) and explained as she went along. First the sugar in the bottom of the shot glass. Lots of sugar, like a packet and a half. Then a small slice of lemon peel. Yes, peel. Then fill the glass halfway with with the Ponce alla Livornese which is a pretty strong liqueur <i>then</i> she steamed that a little bit (to 40C. Leif actually asked) before adding espresso to the whole lovely mixture.<br />
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It's a drink that packs a bit of a punch (pun intended) and definitely should be had only when there's an opportunity for a nap or at least a little quiet time while you pull yourself back together. But according to everyone in the bar this was an experience I should have, totally unique to their region, and they were right. Our trip would have been outstanding without the punch, but it became unforgettable once I enjoyed my Ponce alla Livornese with the guys at the bar.<br />
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The name of the restaurant? I don't know if I should share this little gem with the world, then again, you'd have to know your way around town to find it. I could never find it again. It's called Il Deserto and it's on a one way road heading out of town. Whether that town is actually Livorno or a suburb I don't really know.<br />
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<i>I actually went online and found the place. Here's a link to their Facebook page. Enjoy!</i><br />
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https://www.facebook.com/TrattoriaIlDeserto<br />
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But today, by just about anyone's standards, is a day to celebrate. It's the day I arrived in Italy, two stuffed suitcases in tow, and handed my heart to the handsome man wearing his best suit who met me at the airport. Every doubt and fear I had imagined during the (eternal) flight here disappeared when I looked in his eyes.<br />
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He has cared for my heart better than even I can do, certainly better than any other man has. He feels the same as I do, that this day wasn't an end to waiting but a beginning of living.<br />
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It is truly a day to celebrate. So today, take a moment to thank the universe for being kind; for allowing kindred souls to find each other regardless of distance, language or culture; for nurturing love wherever it grows. Then ask the universe for your hearts desire. It works.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-45520008226615883022014-09-04T15:02:00.000+02:002014-09-04T15:02:25.946+02:00Finding my tribeI'd like to tell you that all kinds of exciting things have happened to me lately. Exotic, vacation-like happenings under sunny skies in idyllic locations accompanied by a string quartet and photographed by a professional.<br />
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The truth is a little less exciting. I cycle most days, which I know for many people is in fact an activity reserved for weekends and vacations, but for me is just another day. Yesterday I rode in the rain. The setting was quite pretty, but when the cold wind is blowing rainwater into places that prefer to be warm and/or dry it's hard to truly appreciate the scenery. When alone I sing to myself, which probably sounds like a string quartet being tortured. My phone takes crappy pictures, which doesn't stop me from taking them <i>or</i> sharing them but they aren't really frame worthy and National Geographic won't be calling me anytime soon begging me to do a feature on Tuscany. Too bad for them.<br />
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But that doesn't mean life isn't exciting. Along with all the cycling, eating and wine drinking I've been doing there was a momentous occasion.<br />
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Last week I met a new friend.<br />
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Yes, that last statement required it's own paragraph, because friendships are hard to come by. I live in a city divided. There are <b>The Italians</b>, who are a tight-knit group of people staunchly trying to maintain a lifestyle while being completely over-run by <b>The Tourists</b>, who race around town taking pictures of laundry and food in their quest to "<i>really </i>experience Tuscany" and are being mocked by <b>The Ex-pats</b>, who are in Italy anywhere from a semester to an eternity and are too intellectual or cool to show how absolutely floored they are to be here.<br />
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I've never been cool. I'm not Italian. I'm not a tourist. I kind of orbit around all these groups connecting when I can. The rest of the time I amuse myself with things that don't require others. Reading, writing, drawing, walking around town or cycling around the countryside. Trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. If growing up is a given or merely an alternative. But that's a story for another day.<br />
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So, meeting a woman who doesn't fit neatly into these categories, is close to my own age and has many of the same likes and dislikes as I do was surprising and refreshing and serendipitous. Lately I've been thinking about the fact that when I left Minnesota I left behind my tribe. My apologies to the people who hate that term. That small group of women who I had instant access to and shared many of my same thoughts and feelings and desires, or if they didn't share them tried honestly to appreciate and understand my viewpoint, were suddenly thousands of miles and seven hours behind me. Since they were a relatively new addition to my life, I didn't think I'd miss that experience too much, but I was wrong. In part because after four years here I'm still kind of in a state of becoming.<br />
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Here, as an American, I spend a lot of time explaining other Americans or American culture or (yikes) politics to other people. I never just get to <b><i>be </i></b>American. When I am it's like I'm some kind of entertaining sideshow. So I'm a little of myself, and a little Italian and a little Swedish. But not so much of any one culture as to offend the others. Believe me when I say that no matter how much another culture might idolize the American dream, when you're sitting at their kitchen table they prefer you to <i><b>be </b></i>a little less American even as they ask you a million questions about being American.<br />
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Other Americans want to know why I came here, mostly so they can tell me why their position, ideas and inspirations are more lofty than mine. (one woman had the audacity to ask me why I came here, then told me my answer was wrong. "Can't you come up with a better way to phrase it?" Um, no.) We're so different we might as well come from different countries. But always, with everyone, I am first an American and then any other attributes they feel comfortable with.<br />
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So to meet someone who didn't immediately try to make me feel pitiful or angry or quaint was very nice. Someone who views me as another woman, not a specific nationality. I'm looking forward to a friendship unhampered by reciprocal invitations and hostess gifts and polite conversation, and instead fueled by shared passions for cycling, men who cycle, food and wine and living in the moment, wherever that moment might be. My tribe is shaping up nicely.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-86734613861486158182014-08-26T18:43:00.002+02:002014-08-26T18:43:09.501+02:00Revolution of a cyclist: Why ride?Some people think it’s great that I started riding a road bike at the tender age of 52. Probably a lot more are wondering why. It’s a reasonable question. It’s not easy to ride in the rolling hills of Tuscany. If I really, <i>really </i>get into it it could become expensive. It’s time consuming. It’s not convenient.<br />
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I could give you reasons that you’d believe but that would be lies. For instance, I could tell you that I do it because it’s healthy and will keep me younger and stronger longer than sitting around doing nothing. Those facts are true, but that’s not the reason I started. I could tell you that I started so that I could spend more time with my husband (the Cyclist) and have a better understanding of this sport that he is so passionate about. This would be only half true. I understand passion and don’t really need to participate to understand. We spend a little more time together riding, but not every ride so the total gain isn’t that big. I could tell you that I enjoy the thrill of competition and pushing my body to it’s limits. <i>Baldfaced lie</i>. I may be the only person on the road who rides just for fun…and the coffee and pastry. Personal bests, Queen of the hill, these things don’t matter to me. In fact, I barely keep track of how much I ride. My only goal is to arrive.<br />
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Imagine you didn’t have a car. Don’t panic! I said <i><b>imagine</b></i>. Your car is safely parked wherever you left it, just waiting for you climb in and go anywhere your little heart desires. But what if you didn’t have it? Your life would change significantly, even in a place where buses and trains were abundant.<br />
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Everything you do would be determined by how far you can walk. How much you can carry. How long it takes to walk there. If you take a bus, the schedule and the driver’s ability to actually maintain the schedule determine just how much you can do in a day. Your view of your surroundings is always seen through a cloud of dirty windows or your own sweaty brow and obscured by tall buildings.<br />
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Now imagine getting on a bike and riding out of town, something you’ve only been able to do on a train or bus, and those times are few and far between. Do you know what’s out there?<br />
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Every vista is like a National Geographic spread. Tiny roads through little villages. Quaint churches clinging to the sides of mountains. Water coming out of fountains dating from last week or last century, or even older. The heart of wine country, where vines strectch out in every direction and olive trees dot the mountainsides all the way to the horizon. Sheep with actual bells around their necks. And you truly see all this because you’re not zooming along at 70 km/hr on your way to stop #3 of 5 for the day.<br />
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It’s not just the spectacular views though. It’s also the joy of feeling, just for a little bit, like flying. The absolute joy of flying along the road (at the astonishing rate of 15 km/hr) with the wind in your face is nothing short of spectacular. If there is such a thing as reincarnation, I was a dog in the back of a pick up or a greyhound. You know, one of those dogs that runs just for the sheer joy of running. But it's more than this too.<br />
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The country is filled with aromas. Not just the ones we usually associate with country living. You don't just see the lavender along the road, you smell it. The smell of fresh cut grass or hay, the humidity of the river as it winds next to the road, the heavy aroma of roses along the walls, the scent of fresh cut wood (and the accompanying smell of the chain saw which always makes me think of a boat on a lake), the smoke from someones burning brush pile, the sweet/sour smell of coffee and pastry wafting out the door of a cafe bar, the smell of grilling meat just as your body decides it's not just hungry, it's <i style="font-weight: bold;">hungry. </i><br />
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A ride in the country is experienced with all my senses. I'm already amazed and inspired by the place I live in, but when I ride I feel alive to the very tips of my fingers and toes and to the deepest part of my soul. All I have to do is get on the bike and pedal. This is why I ride.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-8910516787286867732014-08-20T16:54:00.000+02:002014-08-20T16:54:13.829+02:00Haves and have-notsI know I recently proclaimed for all to hear that I was officially retired from babysitting when the Zurek family left for the States. I had plans to make other plans for life after the Zureks. I can't be trusted.<div>
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I got a random phone call one day last week. It was a hotel that I didn't recognize and the woman calling said that they'd gone through most of their list of babysitters but it was August (which if you live here you know that everyone who can flee the city for the beach or the mountains does so) and I was the only one left on the list. A little disheartening to know that I was the rock bottom of a list. On the other hand, I had no idea how I even made the list to begin with. I later discovered that I had met the manager over a year ago. He cycles with my husband. (Doesn't everyone?)</div>
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Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-91955073150451198922014-07-24T18:29:00.000+02:002014-07-24T18:29:22.413+02:00Writing againThe other day I got a lovely e-mail from a friend who (quite rightly) asked, "Did you stop writing your blog, or am I just not being notified?"<div>
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My food never looks as yummy as yours, my selfies make me look like Alfred Hitchcock except I have like ten more chins than he had, my friends aren't outrageously outgoing when a camera comes out, and while I live in a beautiful setting often one hill looks much like another. I felt like I didn't have anything of real substance to share. But it is on my mind. I frequently write blog posts (in my head) while riding. They're lyrical compositions on important topics and when I get home I can't even remember what they were supposed to be about, much less reconstruct even one beautiful sentence. Totally frustrating.</div>
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Then came the e-mail asking if I still wrote my blog and I realized that every life looks kind of boring from the inside; even the most exotic and romantic life, when repeated day after day, begins to feel commonplace. I also realized that if I was using Facebook as a benchmark for how great my life was I was pitting my actual life against everyone's fantasy life. Tilting at windmills is something I gave up several decades ago.</div>
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So I'm re-entering the blogosphere today because last week my life here changed significantly. The family I had been babysitting for for the last almost two years returned to the United States. It was difficult for me. I've watched the kids grow up. I was trusted to participate in raising them. It was hard to see them go.</div>
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But that's not even what I want to write about today. Eventually I'll get to the point. This family had lived in a space large enough for them to accumulate stuff and when the time came to leave they had to get rid of some things because to take it all back would have been expensive. Also anything that plugged into the wall would be useless in the States. So they began gifting their friends with everything that didn't make the cut to be boxed up and sent to the US.</div>
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One day the Mom came up to me and said "I know you guys like to be nomadic and all, but there are a few things I think you really should have." I hadn't actually thought of myself as nomadic, but kind of like the description. I do lack a camel, which in my mind is part and parcel of a nomadic life, but we try to be very discerning in what things we bring into our small space. She had been very thoughtful in what she offered and I really will enjoy using the things she sent home with me.</div>
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One of the last days (and this is the point of this very long story) she said that she had put together a bag for me to take home. Just a bag with a few useful little things in it and one thing I didn't <i>need</i> but absolutely wanted. We spent the morning rescuing the bag from the clutches of the movers and putting it somewhere else so it wouldn't end up securely taped into box #289 (of over 400) to send to the States.</div>
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It was bound to happen. I lost the bag somewhere in this huge apartment that was filled with boxes and bubble-wrapped furniture and I got mad. I was furious at the movers for taking MY bag, not respecting MY things, and I mourned the loss of a beautiful but unnecessary thing that I had owned for all of an hour. I hadn't even hit full anger before I realized what was happening and my anger disappeared.</div>
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I felt ashamed. Embarrassed. Ridiculous. I felt about two years old. I have spent the last almost four years living with less. It's been a very liberating experience to live as well as we do on so little. I admit to being just a little proud of the fact that we can be happy living simply, and getting so mad about such a trivial object felt like such a failure. I'm trying to set an example by living simply and sharing that experience with others and when the chips are down I totally cave. Even though I was alone I felt like there were a thousand eyes watching me while I tried to deal with my feelings.</div>
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Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-66027383676760798122014-04-01T18:22:00.000+02:002014-04-01T18:22:25.664+02:00Revolution of a cyclist: A letter to my daughter<span style="font-family: inherit;">Dear Daughter,</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are a few things you should know if you're going to be involved with a Cyclist. Some of these are obvious and others will sneak up on you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">He will love it that you want to ride with him. He will do and buy anything necessary to get you out there on the bike.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Once you've gotten used to it he'll start to introduce fun things like climbs that feel like Mount Everest. But he'll say supportive stuff like "you're totally ready for this, I've been watching you" and then you feel like a heel for accusing him of trying to kill you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">You will eat massive amounts of everything, enjoy every last bite and still lose weight. Insist on a coffee and pastry or ice cream stop somewhere in the middle of the ride. You've earned it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">You will have more water bottles than water glasses in your kitchen cupboard...and in fact will sometimes have difficulty drinking from a regular glass. Guests might be a little alarmed when you pull a bottle out of the fridge and squirt water into their glass, but just explain calmly that you wash them carefully.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If you don't have a garage there will be bikes in the house, because you can't just leave those things outside! (this is usually said with a shocked look) It will take some time, but eventually you'll figure out just how much you can hang or place on which bike without bringing down the wrath of the Cyclist. (hint: drying cycle clothing ON the bikes is tolerated) There will be extra tires and tubes hanging on door knobs and tools close by. No doubt there will be a few extra front wheels because those clever companies only sell them in sets, knowing full well that the rear wheels die months if not years before the front. A clever girl (and I know you are) might find a way to create some kind of wall art with them. It keeps them off the floor.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There will be as many kits and accessory gear (they cringe when you call it spandex or even worse...outfits) in your house as regular clothes. No doubt there will be a dedicated closet or dresser for cycling gear. Insist on your own drawer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In fact (I can say this because this was my experience on Sunday) you'll suddenly find yourself thrilled to have found a pair of Pearl Izumi 3/4 length pants for super cheap and an even better deal on a Pissei jersey and consider it money well spent, even though your street clothes are wearing and washing away at an alarming rate. I would pass up a great pair of boots for a really well made (and good looking) jersey and shorts. I'm shocked at this change in attitude.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are several signs to let you know when your transformation from regular person (ie cyclist) to Cyclist is complete. For instance when you start planning your schedule around your rides instead of the other way around. Or when you discover that the majority of your friends ride as well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Suddenly you'll find yourself looking at the world a little differently. A prime example would be Sunday when I was surrounded by incredibly fit men wearing Lycra and what was I looking at? Their bikes. (this still makes me shake my head in disbelief)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">And so pumpkin, it's OK to be seduced by the awesome downhill, just remember that to get to it there's probably a killer climb. But it's totally worth it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Love,</span><br />
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On Sunday Leif said it was "my day" because on Saturday, International Womens Day, we were busy volunteering at a children's carnival. I suggested a ride to Greve, because the weather was supposed to be beautiful and I haven't been there since the New Year. <i>And </i>(this is important to note) it's pretty much a flat ride, with only a couple of manageable hills. My body may be willing but my lungs are still a little weak.<br />
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Leif suggested a more scenic route than the one we usually do. You'd think I'd learn, I've been with him long enough to distrust this sort of statement casually thrown out with a come-hither smile and sideways glance. He oozes charm when planning a ride that will push me a bit.<br />
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He sort of has his own language. One that tends to gloss over the less desirable parts and sugar coats everything so that every ride sounds like a spin around the park complete with balloons and cotton candy and little cartoon birds chirping merrily. Sunday's argument was reinforced by the fact that the usual route has a section of road riddled with potholes that even mountain bikes struggle to manage, along with traffic that would make my mother's hair stand on end. (hope she's not reading this) Taking that into consideration I agreed to ride the scenic route. And lived to tell the story.<br />
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I didn't help my cause much I guess when I mentioned that I'd like to take some pictures to show friends and to promote our business. Those kind of pictures, the ones that inspire people to want to ride here, don't happen at the bottom of the mountain.<br />
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But I didn't think of that when we started out. He waited till we were close to the start of the major climb before saying (again casually, as if he hardly need mention it) that we would be climbing for quite a while so take a drink and get in the right gear. Quite awhile translates into about 40 minutes of climbing. For the first little bit I actually did notice the scenery. He's right, it's quite beautiful. But then gravity doubled and my lung capacity felt like it was cut in half and I couldn't tell you what any part of the climb looked like after that.<br />
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Sometimes singing helps me to get a rhythm so I tried to remember a song, any song, to sing inside my head. Singing out loud would be impossible as I was saving all my breath to keep from passing out. The only song I could think of was <i>Funiculi, Funicula</i> (which was originally an advertising song for a hillside tram in Naples) so over and over again, whether ironically or in prayer to a higher power to make one appear, the song played inside my head.<br />
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Somewhere after gravity started working overtime and the final "last hill" I decided that maybe he was trying to kill me. I know, we're <i>sooooo </i>in love, but don't all those women in movies think their man loves them too much to hurt them, and then hurts them bad? I'm sure the lack of oxygen (both from my exertion and the fact that we were getting into thin air territory) didn't help. It wasn't too hard to convince myself that it was possible, and that it was a totally brilliant plan. Death by bicycle. Impossible to pin on him. I got on the bike of my own free will. There wouldn't be a mark on my body except for the bruises to be expected from the inevitable fall when I lost consciousness. See? Diabolically brilliant.<br />
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Then we were at the top, surrounded by views that most people only see in pictures. And he let me stop to take some of those pictures. Once I got my breath back I became rational again. I mentally apologized to him. Then said it out loud as well, just in case I accidentally spoke those thoughts out loud during the climb, although to be honest I can't imagine that I'd had enough breath to speak and ride at the same time.<br />
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The rest of the ride seems kind of anti-climactic compared to the beginning. The glorious downhill, the coffee and pastry (because I totally ran out of fuel early) and the mostly flat ride back were very enjoyable. And I think it's important to acknowledge at this point that Leif never suggests a ride that is beyond my capabilities, it's just that sometimes they're beyond where I'm comfortable but probably just what I need to become a better rider. I hate it when he's right.<br />
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It was too good to last, however. After narrowly escaping death by bicycle I was a little too relaxed. As we rode along a narrow road enclosed by high stone walls I had to swerve suddenly to avoid being hit by two large and heavy trash bags being pushed out a narrow doorway in the wall. Just my luck I would have lived through one attempt on my life only to be knocked off my bike into oncoming traffic by garbage. Thank goodness the man holding the trash bags saw me and pulled the bags back as I saw them out of the corner of my eye and swerved to avoid them. Another crisis averted. Thank God, because the headline <i>Cyclist Critically Injured In Clash With Trash</i> is not how I want to be remembered.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2493948580241479509.post-54382828512631339832014-03-04T17:14:00.000+01:002014-03-04T17:14:36.063+01:00Remember me?Remember me? Probably not. I barely remember me some days. I'll forgive you if you'll forgive me.<br />
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It's been a strange winter. What should have been our off-season (down time, time to relax, etc) has turned into a planning frenzy for the coming year. I'm not complaining, mind you, it's just that the break in past years has been kind of nice. That moment to take a deep breath, let it all out, and comment that life certainly is good and where's the wine?<br />
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So quick recap.<br />
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We returned to Italy early in January just in time for Leif to head up to the Dolomites for a cross country ski event. I stayed home with the cold of the century. Luckily, an angel of a friend gave me a bottle of Nyquil out of her stash (it's not available here) and I've been using it sparingly hoping to make it last forever. Or at least till the cold of the century decides to release it's iron-like grip on my body. Because the cough remains. Annoying.<br />
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Leif left again in early February to attend a travel fair in Sweden. I stayed home nursing the cough, courtesy of the cold of the century. I think it rained the entire time he was gone. I didn't get bored though, because even though it was hard to go anywhere I had entertainment. I joined an online art project and kept myself busy doodling and painting and thinking creative thoughts. And coughing.<br />
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My son turned 29 in February. Funny, it didn't bother me at all to turn any of the milestone ages, but when your children start hitting those milestones it does make you stop and think about the time that's gone by. I've come to the conclusion that it's been a good life, and will continue to be fantastic. I'm lucky.<br />
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In late Februarty we headed up into the mountains north of Florence for another thrilling 10 days of watching dogs and cats. This time the weather was poor to awful the whole time. The electricity went out one day. The heat failed to reset after getting the electric back, but by the time we figured it out the 17th century stone farmhouse had cooled to the temperature of a dank cave and took two days to warm up again. Truth is, it never really warmed up. The owners had lowered the temperature in the boiler before they left assuming warmer weather was on the way so it really couldn't catch up. On the upside, my conversations with the housekeeper have gone beyond "Good morning" and "thank you". We can now discuss the weather! I also answered the phone a couple of times. I've had phone conversations entirely in Italian and we understood each other. At least I think so.....<br />
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One of the perks of staying at another persons house is that you have access to their books. Eight walls of books on every topic possible. Like a buffet of words. Granted, some of the words were Italian and some were Swedish, but there were also a lot of English books. I was in heaven. I read <i>The Piano Tuner</i> by Daniel Mason, <i>A Man Without a Country</i> by Kurt Vonnegut, <i>The Hundred Secret Sensesi</i> by Amy Tan, <i>Nellie Taft</i> by Carl Sferrazza Anthony, <i>Breakfast of Champions</i> by Kurt Vonnegut, <i>Memoirs of a Geisha</i> by Arthur Golden and <i>The City of Falling Angels</i> by John Berendt. My head probably weighs more, I've put so many words into it lately. I actually would have read more, but it took me a couple of days to realize that I had all those books waiting for me. What a waste.<br />
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I've managed to get a few rides in. Well insulated from the cold and rain, and when that wasn't possible I did the grown up thing and stayed inside. The weather is improving steadily now, so I'm hoping to have more regular rides coming up. That 100k ride in June is fast approaching (for all you saying, what? That's months away! Time flies, you know) and I need to get in shape.<br />
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I think that brings us up to date. On Saturday the Swedes in Florence will be at the annual children's carnival event for Fat Tuesday (rescheduled because of rain). We dress up like fierce Vikings and terrorize the crowd. It should be fun.Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13632952010466099984noreply@blogger.com0